Dear Urban Diplomat: what do I do about my wife’s erotic CBC fan fiction?
Dear Urban Diplomat,
I discovered my wife’s erotic fan fiction starring a certain personality from CBC’s The National. It’s astonishingly steamy stuff. What should I make of it?
—Fiction Friction, Summerhill
Allow me a moment to shake the image of a pouty-lipped Rex Murphy from my mind…. There we go. We’re all entitled to our fantasies, so no need to feel threatened. Instead, consider her saucy opus a call to action. What to do depends largely on where you found it. If the pages were tucked away in a drawer, buy her some sexy lingerie, then rise to the occasion, but don’t mention your discovery. If she left the story open on the kitchen table, take it as an invitation to discuss her rather specific sexual pinings. Be open, accepting and prepared to spice things up in the bedroom (or bathroom or kitchen), and don’t rule out a little role playing starring the Mansbridge/Swain/Murphy/Mesley/Hanomansing combination of your mutual choosing.
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Dear Urban Diplomat,
I discovered my wife’s erotic fan fiction starring a certain personality from CBC’s The National. It’s astonishingly steamy stuff. What should I make of it?
—Fiction Friction, Summerhill
Allow me a moment to shake the image of a pouty-lipped Rex Murphy from my mind.... There we go. We’re all entitled to our fantasies, so no need to feel threatened. Instead, consider her saucy opus a call to action. What to do depends largely on where you found it. If the pages were tucked away in a drawer, buy her some sexy lingerie, then rise to the occasion, but don’t mention your discovery. If she left the story open on the kitchen table, take it as an invitation to discuss her rather specific sexual pinings. Be open, accepting and prepared to spice things up in the bedroom (or bathroom or kitchen), and don’t rule out a little role playing starring the Mansbridge/Swain/Murphy/Mesley/Hanomansing combination of your mutual choosing.
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I disagree with this advice. First of all, if the work was not on public display (internet fan fiction forum or whatnot), then you really have no right to be reading it. That’s like reading someone’s diary- big no-no. Second, fan fiction isn’t necessarily reflective of what the author wants in their own sex life. Maybe she’s a budding author, and this is the only outlet she has found so far for her talent. Since you’ve already read her work, fess up now, and maybe even encourage her in her writing. But using her possibly private work to manipulate her into sexy times (even if you’ve convinced yourself that that’s what she wants) is wrong, wrong, WRONG.