Dear Urban Diplomat: what should I do after accidentally sexting a co-worker?
Dear Urban Diplomat,
Due to an iPhone autofill snafu, I accidentally sent a sexually explicit text message to a co-worker with the same first name as my intended recipient. I didn’t even realize what I had done for a couple of days, but she never replied. I’ve seen her since and she hasn’t said anything, and HR hasn’t forced me into sensitivity training. A week has passed—should I apologize or pretend it never happened?
—Sextual Deviant, location withheld
It’s safe to say your co-worker hasn’t forgotten about your NSFW faux pas, so it’s on you to apologize. You could send an “OMG! My bad!” text, but, to fully clear the air, speak in person, in public (albeit discreetly). Explain that the text was in-tended for someone else, and that you’re sorry for making things weird at work. She’ll probably think you only came up with that alibi because she didn’t sext you back. But, if a little embarrassment is the worst thing to come of the situation, you got off easy.
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