Dear Wedding Diplomat: Too many guests RSVP’d for our destination wedding. What can we do?

Dear Wedding Diplomat: Too many guests RSVP’d for our destination wedding. What can we do?

Dear Wedding Diplomat: RSVPeeved (Image: Cranky Pressman)
 

Dear Wedding Diplomat,
My fiancé and I are having a destination wedding in Cancún in April. We reserved a villa for 40 guests but sent out 60 invites, assuming at least 20 people—acquaintances, second cousins and the like—would decline. We were shocked when we counted the RSVPs and realized we had 66 people, including partners and kids. The rest of the resort is booked. Should we tell them about the room shortage and hope they back out?
—RSVPeeved, Roncesvalles

Sending out half-hearted invites was your first mistake. Passive-aggressively floating the hotel shortage and hoping your guests get the hint would be your second. You should have known that any vitamin D–deprived Torontonian with disposable income would seize the opportunity to escape the city’s 50 shades of winter grey. An invite is a contract between a guest and a host that should be honoured once the RSVPs are in the mail. It’s your responsibility to find alternative accommodations at a nearby resort, and to send the link to your B-list guests. Once you’re all down there, arrange for transportation between the two spots, so no one feels like a wedding exile. Then, toss back a few umbrella drinks and enjoy the matrimonial mariachi band.